情為何物 | 8種情況 其實他只想和你玩
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“時間可以改變一切!”這話不假,但是放在愛情裏,你就得掂量掂量。如果你現在正在試圖改變你們尷尬的局面,以下8種情況供你參考。沒有結果的愛,該放手還是儘快吧。


一、你在乎對方比較多

你在談戀愛,卻不確定對方的想法;你覺得你們很合適,他好像不以為然;他不在時你很想他,你不在時他好像沒差別,這表示什麼?

“二人若不同心,豈能同行呢?”有時候會有一方愛另一方較多的情形,若是在健全的感情中,會有交替的現象,兩人輪流扮演追求和被追求的角色;但如果有一方 總是扮演追求者,這樣的感情不健全,長久下去,你會對愛饑渴,你會覺得受對方控制,你會感到憤怒、受騙、痛苦。        

二、你愛的是對方的潛力

你愛的是對方的潛力,而不是對方真正的樣子,你愛的是對方未來可能的樣子,那他根本不是你的伴侶,而是你改造的對象。我們每次作婚前輔導都會問,如果對方五十年內都不會改變,你會滿意嗎?

如果你一直希望能改變對方,才覺得比較滿意,那就不是愛,而是賭博,用雙方的快樂當作賭注。你跟一個人交往時,要愛和尊重對方的本相,而不是他未來的樣子,你可以期望他繼續成長,但你必須滿意他現在的樣子。

三、你想要幫助對方

你常覺得對方很可憐嗎?你覺得自己有責任幫助對方振作起來嗎?你會不會害怕如果離開對方,他會受不了打擊?如果是,你恐怕是個“救難狂”。“救難狂”不會 去找一個合適的對象,而是找一個他所同情、可以幫助的對象。找一個受過創傷、脆弱、依賴、不被愛、委屈的人,你由憐生愛,他會對你心生感激,這樣的感情像 是一項救援任務,而不是健全、平衡的感情。

這裡要牢記的關鍵是“尊重”,你愛的對象必須是你能夠尊重的人,你必須以對方為榮,你的伴侶不要你的救援,而是要你真正了解他。

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